When you got married, you probably thought that life was always going to be just like it is in the fairy tales, right? Yet, things happen along the way that often interferes with what you thought was going to happen. Whether it's the loss of a job, trouble with kids, infidelity, boredom or any other reason, that comes along, sometimes marriage suffers. If you and your spouse have decided that you want things to get better, from having regular dates to arranging for adult counseling, here are some ideas that might help you.
Build On What You Already Have - Of course, you probably already go out with friends, and you might even already have a consistent date night. However, think about tweaking your dates a bit. Instead of going to dinner at a restaurant, consider packing a picnic and heading to the countryside or even to a park nearby. Once you have arrived at your destination, besides eating your meal, take time to get to know each other again. Consider writing down questions you can ask each other that will remind you of happier days gone by.
For example, one of the questions could be, Do you remember our first kiss? Or, the question might be, What is it that attracted you to me? Questions like that may help you to remember the strong love that you really have for each other, leading you to build on other dates that will strengthen your relationship. Be creative about things you can do together.
Seek Adult Counseling - If you have tried by yourself to get through the difficulties in your marriage relationship and things are still not good, think about going to adult counseling. Your family doctor or your ecclesiastic leader will more than likely be able to give you the name of a counselor that specializes in couples counseling. When you meet with the counselor, don't hold back. The counselor has the experience and the training to see where the problems in your marriage began.
For example, the counselor might pinpoint that you have let work, children or other things become a priority instead of making your relationship your first concern. You might meet individually with the counselor and then meet together, you and your spouse discussing things together with a mediator that can help you communicate feelings to each other. You might even have homework assignments that will build your relationship and bring it back to where it once was.
For more information, check out a website like http://livinghopeclinic.org.