Are you longing for the days when you and your spouse were newlyweds? It probably seemed like there would never be problems in your marriage. If there have been more low times than sweet times, you are probably not alone in feeling that things could be as they once were. If your marriage is suffering, from evaluating the problem to seeding marriage counseling, here are some ideas that might help you to go forward.
Evaluate Your Situation - First, think about reflecting on your marriage all by yourself. Try to be as honest with yourself as you possibly can. Ask yourself some important questions. They might include Do I really give my spouse personal time? Have I let my work or social life get in the way of my relationship with my spouse? Does my spouse feel that he or she is the most important person in my life? Answering those questions honestly might lead to changes that you can personally make to remedy the problem in your marriage.
After you have taken some personal reflection time, see if your spouse will sit down with you to have an honest conversation about what's happening in your marriage. Remind him or her that you loved each other enough to get married in the first place, and that your love for each other can be rekindled if you both make changes that need to be made. Be sure that you are on the same page as you talk, and that he or she doesn't feel like you are placing blame where it doesn't belong.
Consider Seeing A Marriage Counselor - Even after you have done what you think is all that is needed to make things in your marriage right again, it simply may not be enough. Will your spouse join you in marriage counseling? Perhaps you could get the name of a family counselor from your family doctor or from your ecclesiastic leader. Be sure to let that person know that you'd prefer talking to a counselor who specializes in relationship counseling.
The marriage counselor will more than likely meet with each of you separately and then together. He or she will have the experience and the training to know how to help you. Be ready to get homework that will help you to communicate better with each other and to express love and appreciation more readily. And, remember to give yourselves time to make things better. Contact a counselling center, like Can't We Just Get Along Counselling Inc., for more help.